Battle of the jobs

While the cavemean was running late for work for what seemed like the millionth time I couldn't help but ask myself... Should I get a job outside of the home?
Once again I found myself doubting our current situation and a feeling of uncertainty coming over me. If any of you have OCD like myself you know, as well as I do, that is not a welcomed feeling.
So, while weighing the pros and cons of leaving the homestead and venturing out into the vast laborers world... I decided... No thanks.
Call me old fashioned, paranoid, or just plain obsessed with my babies I truly believe a mothers place is in the home with their children. I know, that times have changed and women have the ability to have amazing careers or maybe due to life's circumstances they are just not able to. There is nothing wrong with that. So before you close out of my blog and mark me as an old fashioned nut bag... Hear me out.
Every day my FB, news, and other means of social media are flooded with horror stories of abused, neglected, or mistreated children in daycare centers. Shooting or stabbings in schools. Suicide due to bullying. Teen pregnancy. Etc. and I may not be that old but I do know that when I was in school Columbine was the biggest and almost only known horror in a school. I got picked on... Bad... But it never made me want to go homicidal. Kids were not on adderall or other mind or mood altering substances. Boys were hyper and girls were hormonal. It's the way of life. Why do you think the timeless saying is "boys will be boys" or "he is ALL boy for sure!" Came about?
I guess it's just pure fear that I will send my kids to daycare and find out down the road that they were put in a room in a car seat alone for hours and strangled by their seat strap, or tied up ("claiming to be swaddled") at the age of one and left to cry. What about my own troubles with daycare when I did work and thing one came home with a bite mark so bad it was bleeding on her back? Or my little sister left in a high chair after she had an accident simply because "she needed to finish her lunch"
I'm not saying any of this to deter mothers from using child care outside of their own home or to say that you're a bad mom if you work. I'm not saying this to put down women's rights or what not. I'm saying this because there are so many factors that come into play with children now a days outside of the home. Schools are pushing advanced education on young children, people are jumping at the chance to point a finger or pick up a phone to call the authorities if you send your kid to school in a less than prime outfit (stained or whatever) (not that I do that or have been called on) but seriously... If you leave your kids in the car while you run in to pay for your gas... You could be in deep shit. If you forget to give your kid lunch ,only or pack a lunch, you're neglectful. If you send your child to a sitter or daycare that is not licensed, regulated, or state du des and something happens to them... You could get in just as much trouble...
I guess I just wish the days of letting your kids walk to the corner store, ride their bike to school across town... Or even stay the night at a friends house are missed by this momma. When stay at home moms were a normal thing. Kids got fed full regular meals, and not fast food. Where you were sent outside at summer and told not to come back till sundown. I didn't get a cell phone till I graduated high school. We were allowed a regulated amount of tv time and we had chores. A page of chores a day. We were taught to take care of the things we had and eat the food in front of us. I got my mouth washed out with soap... Do that now and it's abuse. My mom scared the crap out of me and I'm not gonna lie that even now sometimes I have to remind myself that I'm not 10 when she gets mad. But it was a respectful fear. I never called her names, I never talked down to her, I was scared to death to get caught doing something "bad" but that wasn't because she beat me...nit was because I didn't want to disappoint her.
Respect is unheard of in today's youth and we have become greedy and oh so quick to to pass of the kids. (Once again reiterating not all working moms) Don't get me wrong, I would love the daily adult interaction, getting snazzed up on the regular, having a conversation that consisted of more than octonauts latest adventure... But... I missed a lot in ting 1s early stages that I wish everyday I could make up but I can't. So, where as the extra money And social life along with intellectual advancing sounds fantastic... I think the ABCs and Minnie's Bowtique will be just fine for me... Until they are in all day school...at least... Maybe ;)